Hello World,
It’s been a while since I last wrote a post, and a lot has changed since then. As I’m writing this, it’s two days after Christmas 2025, and I’m incredibly blessed and thankful for my wife of one year. I hope to dedicate an entire post to her someday, because she has truly changed my life. In fact, this might be the first time I’ve really spoken about her publicly.
The scripture at the heart of this post is Proverbs 18:22.
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Marriage isn’t easy—but it is a good thing. My wife has brought undeniable favor into my life. We’re still early in our marriage and growing together, but I wanted to take some time to reflect on how wives in the Bible brought favor from the Lord into their husbands’ lives.
The three wives that came to mind are Zipporah, Rebekah, and Elizabeth. There’s also a bonus example at the end.
Zipporah
Zipporah is the wife of Moses. After Moses murdered an Egyptian and fled Egypt, he encountered the seven daughters of the priest of Midian and helped them water their flock. Their father heard about Moses’ actions, invited him to dinner, and eventually gave him his daughter Zipporah in marriage. Moses and Zipporah had a son named Gershom, and Moses lived in Midian until the Pharaoh who sought his life died.
Eventually, God called Moses to return to Egypt and free His people. But then something unexpected happens.
Exodus 4:24–26
On the way, at a place where they spent the night, the Lord met Moses and tried to kill him. But Zipporah took a flint and cut off her son’s foreskin, and touched Moses’ feet with it, and said, “Truly you are a bridegroom of blood to me!” So the Lord let Moses alone. It was then she said, “A bridegroom of blood by circumcision.”
There’s a lot going on here, so I’ll try to keep it brief. God called Moses to gather his wife and children and return to his homeland with the blessing of his father-in-law.
The Bible doesn’t explicitly say it, but it’s reasonable to assume Moses spoke to Zipporah about God’s calling. Even though she grew up in Midian, she was willing to leave everything behind and stand with her husband. She was so committed that she noticed something Moses either overlooked or didn’t realize the seriousness of: their son Gershom had not been circumcised, which violated the Abrahamic covenant from Genesis 17.
Moses may not have even realized his life was in danger—but Zipporah did. She acted decisively and saved her husband’s life. At first glance, the passage can feel strange or confusing, but the key takeaway is clear: his wife saved his life.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing.
Rebekah
Rebekah is the wife of Isaac, the son of Abraham and Sarah. After Sarah’s death, Isaac fell into deep mourning. Seeing this, Abraham’s servant was sent to find Isaac a wife. When Rebekah was brought to him, we get a moment many people can relate to.
Genesis 24:62–67
Now Isaac had come from Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living in the Negev. He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
I love this passage because of its depth. Isaac traveled from the Negev to his mother’s tent—a journey estimated at around 100 miles (160 km). That would have taken days, possibly weeks. He didn’t go there to find a wife; he went there to mourn his mother.
But while meditating in the field, he looked up and saw camels approaching. That moment changed everything. He met Rebekah, married her, and found comfort after a season of deep grief. It truly reads like love at first sight.
We don’t hear much about how Rebekah felt in this specific moment, but earlier in the chapter we see her courage. She agreed to marry a man she had never met, left her family behind, and traveled to an unknown land. That’s faith and sacrifice.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing.
Elizabeth
Elizabeth is the wife of Zechariah and the mother of John the Baptist. Honestly, there are many examples of difficult marriages in the Bible. Adam and Eve experienced the fall, Abraham and Sarah made painful mistakes involving Hagar, Isaac and Rebekah showed favoritism, and Jacob’s family situation speaks for itself.
It’s comforting, in a way, to see that biblical marriages weren’t easy—it helps us navigate our own. But the marriage between Zechariah and Elizabeth stands out as one of the healthiest examples, with only one major hardship.
Luke 1:5–7
In the time of Herod king of Judea there was a priest named Zechariah, who belonged to the priestly division of Abijah; his wife Elizabeth was also a descendant of Aaron. Both of them were righteous in the sight of God, observing all the Lord’s commands and decrees blamelessly. But they were childless because Elizabeth was not able to conceive, and they were both very old.
Both Zechariah and Elizabeth were godly and righteous—before Jesus was even born. Yet they were childless. That alone could have been a breaking point for many marriages, especially in biblical times. But they remained faithful.
Eventually, God sent the angel Gabriel to Zechariah and told him that Elizabeth would bear a son named John, filled with the spirit and power of Elijah. Zechariah struggled to believe and was temporarily struck mute.
God could have chosen anyone for this role—but He chose Elizabeth. A woman who had known disappointment and disgrace was chosen to give birth to the greatest human ever born, according to Jesus.
Matthew 11:11
Truly I tell you, among those born of women there has not risen anyone greater than John the Baptist; yet whoever is least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he.
Elizabeth became pregnant and spent five months in seclusion. During that time, her husband couldn’t speak. All she had was God and the life growing inside her.
Luke 1:25
“The Lord has done this for me,” she said. “In these days he has shown his favor and taken away my disgrace among the people.”
Even though she was righteous, Elizabeth still carried the pain of unmet expectations. But God never forgot her. When John was born and named, Zechariah regained his voice, and his joy overflowed.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing.
Adesuwa
Adesuwa is the wife of Ayodeji. Both names are not found in the bible, but Ayodeji (me!) is the one writing this post.
I’ve shared several biblical examples that support Proverbs 18:22, but there are countless modern examples too. The best one I know is my wife. Here are five good things I’ve discovered because of her:
- I realized I wasn’t as close to God as I thought. My wife loves God deeply. She journals, prays, and spends time in the Word. While I might be scrolling or gaming, she’s seeking God. I’m catching up—but her faith challenges and inspires me.
- I learned to take better care of myself. Growing up as the oldest of four boys, “good enough” hygiene was the standard. My wife showed me that caring about how I present myself matters—and it’s boosted my confidence.
- I learned I’m not a great listener. I listen well at work, but at home I realized I often shut down. Marriage exposed that flaw, and I’m learning to be quicker to listen and slower to speak.
- I became a cat dad. I never had pets growing up, but now I proudly own two cats. I love them, and somehow, they love me back.
- I learned I was lazy. When I lived alone, I wasted time. Marriage has pushed me to grow, improve, and stop settling for comfort.
I could keep going, but the point is simple: marriage is a beautiful thing. And finding a wife—especially a godly one—is truly finding a good thing.
With love,
Ayodeji Alaketu
